Teenage Depression: Is it just a phase
in growth? by Foras Aje
We all remember when we were teenagers. Boy, what a phase in
our lives.What with the need for peer acceptance, parental expectations,
raging hormones, acne...
It's no wonder teenage depression exists in such high
numbers.
From research and even mere observation, teenage depression
actually manifests itself differently from adult or childhood
depression as during this age, teens want to start to mark their
territorial signs of independence and the last thing a teen
may want to do is admit they need help for depression. Teenagers
tend not to display gloom, self-depreciation, or talk about
feeling hopeless like adults do during this stage of their lives
if they are depressed, so as a parent or adult role-model you
may need to watch for other signs of depression in the teenager
you are dealing with.
Teenage Depression: Symptoms to watch out for. Though
the signs of teenage depression may vary in both sexes, here
are some symptoms that are common to both male and female teens
battling with depression.
- Excessive negativity and antisocial behaviors.
- Wanting to leave home or retreat to their rooms constantly.
- Inattention to personal appearance.
- A lack of desire to co-operate in family get-togethers and
activities.
Signs of Teenage Depression in Males:
- Increasing in aggression and agitation.
- A higher tendency to get in trouble with school or the law.
- Reckless behavior such as uncontrolled use of illegal substances.
Signs of Teenage Depression in Females:
- Less attention to their appearance.
- Pre-occupation with death and themes of suicide.
- Excessive promiscuity or an extreme isolation from members
of their opposite sex.
Although this is not a conclusive list of the signs
of teenage depression one should look out for in teens,
the ones listed above are the most common ones. In addition
to these depression symptoms in regards to teenager, other ones
may include a lower self-esteem than average, referrals to suicide
(in extreme cases) and a general negative outlook on life.
It indeed may be challenging to cope with as an adult
to deal with a depressed teenager as it's a catch 22
situation, they want to be independent as teens, yet they need
your help. Well, this may be a good time to simply take charge,
albeit with care and caution as we are dealing with delicate
and sensitive emotions here and reach out to help.
Teenage Depression: Solutions for coping with depression
in your teen
- If necessary, seek professional help. I lean more towards
drug-free alternatives so meetings with competent Pastors,
guidance counselors, teachers and therapists may suffice to
at least get a diagnosis...if you need one.
- Talk to your teen's friends and or their parents, although
this approach requires care, remember, they are starting to
declare independence and 'snooping' around on them may be
defeating the purpose of reaching them, so do this with care
and tact.
- Suggest one-on-one outings with phrases like: "hey,
how about a game of basketball, just you and I..?' or "Hey
how about us girls take a trip to the Mall?" If they
refuse, don't appear too crushed; simply respond with an understanding
"okay maybe some other time..."
- Ask if there is anything they'd like to discuss and this
will be a great time to be more of the listener and less of
the talker as soon as they start to open up.
- Don't be what you've not always been to your teen, in other
words being overly nice or "Bill Cosby-ish" (no
pun intended Mr. Cosby) , trust me, they'll see right through
the act and may withdraw even more.
- Watch for signs of suicide (in extreme cases) and if there
is the slightest indication, double up your efforts to reach
your teen. It helps if you've been close as parent and child
from the beginning.
- In the hopes things are not as extreme, soon as they manifest
signs of reaching out, help, be there. Incorporate such limbs
of a natural treatment for depression as exercise, proper
diet and positive thoughts and affirmations.
- Set a good example of being upbeat around your teen as much
as possible. This can also be more of preventive measure if
any.
- Prayer. If you are spiritual, pray and it doesn't hurt and
can help immensely to ask your depressed teen to join. "Where
two or more are gathered in My name, there will I be."
Keep that promise from Above in mind-it works.
Teenage depression may wear a different mask from all
other types, but it is essentially the same and with
the proper steps taken can be overcome. Do not panic,
however, be strong and there for your teen and in applying the
steps above with other suggestions or creative ideas you deem
right as an adult dealing with a depressed teen,
you will be able to steer him or her back to a positive outlook
on life.
Foras Aje is an independent health researcher and founder of
Bodyhealthsoul.com, a website on Natural Health and Wellness.
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Depression Treatment go to: http://www.bodyhealthsoul.com/depression.htm
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For More Information:
Contact your local Mental Health Association,
community mental health center, or:
National Mental Health Association 2001 N. Beauregard Street,
12th Floor Alexandria, VA 22311 Phone 703/684-7722 Fax 703/684-5968
Mental Health Resource Center 800/969-NMHA TTY Line 800/433-5959
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